Self-care is important, especially when you’re a parent
First, a bit about it…
What is self-care?
Self-care is “for you, by you”. It is a time to focus your mind and energy on yourself, giving you a mental and physical break from the stresses of life.
There are few things in life that can bring you as much stress, mental anguish, and physical hardship as those tiny humans we love so much. We do everything from growing them to grooming them. Even the glamorous stuff like wiping butts. How lucky.
It is spending time by yourself
while going to the bathroom somewhere relaxing. Somewhere enjoyable.
It is taking a bath because
you’re sporting some rank, unknown bodily fluids from the kids you want to. Plus, you have a new bottle of wine you want to try.
It is you, doing what you want. What makes you feel good. What makes you refreshed.
Self-care is not selfish. Period.
Listen. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
I am not sure at what point in time this ridiculous notion of being selfish was ingrained in our minds but it’s ridiculous. Everyone deserves to focus some time on themselves without fear of judgment. I made it to the end of the day being pulled on, sneezed on, attacked by a 5-month old teething milk-vampire, jumped on, yelled at, followed, poked, ignored…
I am having a damn bath. With wine.
I might even blow-dry my hair after or paint my nails. If I want to get crazy I might just go to bed.
Repeat after me.
“I take care of myself so that I can take care of others”
Taking the leap
Get into the habit.
Set yourself up for success. Plan time for you. Yes, I know. It isn’t very romantic when you know that every Thursday at 4:15pm you are going to be outside for half an hour embracing the beauty of the world, but too bad. Gotta do it. Then repeat it until it is a habit.
Make it easy.
You don’t need seven-hour spa days or weekend trips. You need short, easily accomplished tasks.
I don’t know about you, but I am guessing that if you are here you are also busy. I can accomplish multiple tasks under half an hour much better than if someone were to tell me to go out for a day.
The power of positivity.
If you are having trouble setting aside a bit of time for you, start small and use the power of positivity. Make a conscious effort each day to be positive.